5 Lessons from Malaysian activist Hanis of RAD CULTURE 🇲🇾 on journaling rituals 📖 social media toxicity ☠️ & your capacity to love 💗 (40)

Don’t Be Strangers * Podcast Show Notes

1. On Happiness ☺️ “I used to think that in order for you to be happy something big needs to happen. But it really doesn’t.”
2. On Friendship 🫂 “I struggle of making friends as an adult, and I felt like oh that is because like I probably don’t even know myself that what are my hobbies.”
3. On Love 💗 “People always look at love just between a woman or a man, between 2 persons. But now I feel like I look at [love] like the love I have for my siblings, for my nieces and nephew, for my work, [and] for myself. So just I hope I get to nurture those throughout the year yeah than just just like hyper focus on not getting that one person.”
4. On Social Media 💬 “I’m looking at others, but then what they have is not necessarily what I want. So it becomes like this whole cycle of me chasing [what others present as success] and getting it but still feeling like ‘I don’t really want this.’.. Some people say social media is toxic. For me, it’s really how you use it. So now I have like a healthier relationship with social media.”
5. On Slow Living 🌱 “It’s nice to be aware that I’m not glamorizing business. I’m not glamorizing the whole hustle culture.”

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Welcome back to Don’t Be Strangers. Our mission is to create deeper conversations and more vulnerable connections by providing intentional resources, events, and community for curious and optimistic students-of-life to fight adult loneliness and the myth that “making friends is hard!” I’m your host XinYi, and I typically meet my co-hosts for the very first time while recording! If this sounds fun to you, please consider applying to co-host a future episode.

I recently launched my first book How to Talk to Anyone for Introverts where I share my insights on how to shift your identity and mindset for approaching conversations, how I start, flow, and exit chats, and my insights on friendship building which includes conflict resolution. There’s also a bonus 7-day challenge where I make it very actionable for you to take everything you learn and actually apply it! I’m on a mission to get to 100 reviews so if I’ve piqued your interest and you’d like a free copy in exchange for a review, you can visit our instagram @dontbestrangers where it will be linked in the bio OR you can visit our website: dontbestrangers.club/free-book ! I’m mentioning this because in this episode, which was recorded back in January while I was deep in the middle of working on this book, covers (by coincidence) the topic of adult friendships, making friends as an introvert, and friendship green flags.

So that’s a nice transition to introducing my co-host Hanis, whom I actually met in person when I was visiting KL Malaysia back in December. I still so clearly remember our dinner date conversation about her recent drastic changes in her adult life from a career pivot to letting go of friendships that didn’t serve her anymore… when she suggested that we record a podcast episode, of course I immediately said yes. Other topics we cover include…

• our take on the idea of “new year, new me”
• journaling practices
• happiness via slow living
• what is love?
• is social media toxic?

With that, please meet Hanis…